Most of us have been told that you can't discuss politics and religion in mixed company. As a rule I don't discuss either in a public forum such as Facebook. I regularly engage people in those types of discussions but as a rule I avoid those types of forums because misinterpretation is too easy and they generally degenerate into clichés and name-calling, all of which accomplish nothing of much consequence.
But today I am going to break that rule.
Over the course of the last few days my Facebook feed has been overwhelmed with stories of the supposed "Return of Jesus/End of the World." I did a little research and discovered that no reputable Biblical scholar holds this view and that one must turn some truly incredible theological summersaults to even come close to such a conclusion. This conclusion is achieved by mixing numerology, mythology, and such a bizarre reading of scripture that one would have to believe that sitting in the garage makes one a Honda.
That wonderful bit of intellectual suicide was followed by another friend, a person whom I respect greatly, deciding to debate the role of women in the church....on Facebook. He used a specific passage of Scripture and then threw open the door for "discussion." I read some of the responses, sighed, and then hid the post. There was little regard for the Word in most of the responses and even less respect for differing opinions.
And then to continue my two days of lunacy....I recently ordered a book from Amazon. I frequently order things from Amazon, the prices are generally lower and I don't have to drive over an hour to the closest Christian bookstore. This was a Christian theology book written by a well-known Christian author. I have developed a practice through the years of reading the endorsements of a particular book as well as the foreword of those books. This particular foreword was written by another Christian pastor and author. The foreword identified the author as an "evangelical superstar" in the very first sentence.
I almost threw the book away. "Evangelical superstar"? Excuse me, but I thought that the only superstar in Christendom was Jesus. But maybe that's part of what's wrong with the church today, we've made superstars out of mere men. The is a very real celebrity culture in Christianity today and it measures celebrity in the same ways the secular culture does. What does it say when a man is trumpeted as "America's pastor" has no theological training and has no real knowledge of biblical doctrine. I would dare to say that Jesus wouldn't be a "superstar" in today's culture...or Paul, for that matter. We have forgotten, either by deliberate choice or by neglect, that Jesus lived his live in the embrace of the outcast, giving his life for those whom others had judged to be unworthy.
And then, as I listened to a podcast this morning I was made aware of a statement made by Archbishop Desmond Tutu in 2013. The Archbishop stated "I would refuse to go to a homophobic heaven..." (Washington Times, July 26, 2013). I can only shake my head.
Self-styled "prophecy experts," "evangelical superstars," and bishops who care nothing for the Word of God...what have we come to and where are we going? Without the Word of God the church is nothing more than a country club, which is what many of our churches have become. The Word of God is the plumb-line for our faith, that which all doctrine and teaching is to be measured against. The reason that the church has become so ridiculed and ineffective in our world is because we have abandoned the Word of God, both in our pulpits and in our personal lives.
God forgive us.
Tuesday, September 19, 2017
Thursday, September 7, 2017
Thinking About Old Friends
This morning in my devotional reading I read 2 Samuel chapter 1. This chapter records David receiving the news of the death of King Saul and his son Jonathan. David's response is heartfelt, genuine and powerful.
As I usually do, I recorded my thoughts and reactions to this passage of Scripture. I felt that I should share them with you.
David's heart was broken by the death of Jonathan. The two men shared a friendship that was deep and affecting - and one-sided by human standards. A study of their friendship shows just how disparate these two men were; one a royal prince, the other a simple shepherd. Jonathan had before him all the glories and riches of a kingdom, David watched sheep and played the lyre. One was schooled by the finest minds in the kingdom, the other went to Vo-Tech and got a degree in shepherding. These two men could hardly be more different in position and background.
But Jonathan and David shared something that is not learned by instruction alone: they shared a godly character. These two young men exemplified what godly character is all about. Their hearts were bent towards the LORD, each with a desire to honor Him. Their character was forged in the heart. True character is not a matter of instruction alone...almost all of us are taught right and wrong, but few of us seem well versed in its proper application. Character development requires more than instruction, it also requires demonstration. David probably had character modeled for him by his father and Jonathan may have seen character demonstrated for him by the prophet Samuel. Regardless of who it was, someone demonstrated godly character to these two when they were young, and the result was a life of blessing.
Perhaps the most amazing aspect of their friendship was the selflessness that both of these men demonstrated. Each put the other's welfare ahead of their own. They were willing to lay their lives down for the other without regards to the cost. They each sought better for the other than they sought for themselves. In this sense they serve as an example of another who sought the benefit of others above his own:
Philippians 2:5-8
5 Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus,
6 who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped,
7 but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men.
8 Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.
These two men weren't perfect, far from it, but they demonstrate what is possible between men when the Spirit of God fills both. The best of human relationships are fallen and none of us are capable of Christlikeness on our own, but when the Spirit of God lies within the hearts of both amazing things are possible.
It occurs to me that one of the problems in American society in our day is that we lack true character (not characters, there are plenty of those). Our leaders, in churches and in especially in politics, seem less concerned with character than with personal advancement. Perhaps that is why we seem to be so...lost.
I believe that what we need are more men and women of godly character. Leaders willing to sacrifice self for others, willing to love with a sacrificial love willing to follow the example of Christ. I have been blessed to know men and women with that character, and I am blessed to have friends with whom I share a friendship like that of Jonathan and David. Oh that our country would know more of that.
As I usually do, I recorded my thoughts and reactions to this passage of Scripture. I felt that I should share them with you.
David's heart was broken by the death of Jonathan. The two men shared a friendship that was deep and affecting - and one-sided by human standards. A study of their friendship shows just how disparate these two men were; one a royal prince, the other a simple shepherd. Jonathan had before him all the glories and riches of a kingdom, David watched sheep and played the lyre. One was schooled by the finest minds in the kingdom, the other went to Vo-Tech and got a degree in shepherding. These two men could hardly be more different in position and background.
But Jonathan and David shared something that is not learned by instruction alone: they shared a godly character. These two young men exemplified what godly character is all about. Their hearts were bent towards the LORD, each with a desire to honor Him. Their character was forged in the heart. True character is not a matter of instruction alone...almost all of us are taught right and wrong, but few of us seem well versed in its proper application. Character development requires more than instruction, it also requires demonstration. David probably had character modeled for him by his father and Jonathan may have seen character demonstrated for him by the prophet Samuel. Regardless of who it was, someone demonstrated godly character to these two when they were young, and the result was a life of blessing.
Perhaps the most amazing aspect of their friendship was the selflessness that both of these men demonstrated. Each put the other's welfare ahead of their own. They were willing to lay their lives down for the other without regards to the cost. They each sought better for the other than they sought for themselves. In this sense they serve as an example of another who sought the benefit of others above his own:
Philippians 2:5-8
5 Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus,
6 who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped,
7 but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men.
8 Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.
These two men weren't perfect, far from it, but they demonstrate what is possible between men when the Spirit of God fills both. The best of human relationships are fallen and none of us are capable of Christlikeness on our own, but when the Spirit of God lies within the hearts of both amazing things are possible.
It occurs to me that one of the problems in American society in our day is that we lack true character (not characters, there are plenty of those). Our leaders, in churches and in especially in politics, seem less concerned with character than with personal advancement. Perhaps that is why we seem to be so...lost.
I believe that what we need are more men and women of godly character. Leaders willing to sacrifice self for others, willing to love with a sacrificial love willing to follow the example of Christ. I have been blessed to know men and women with that character, and I am blessed to have friends with whom I share a friendship like that of Jonathan and David. Oh that our country would know more of that.
Wednesday, February 22, 2017
The Hard Part of Forgiveness
This is a picture of my mom taken when she was 25. By my reckoning I was 2 or 3 years old at the time. My mother died last week at the age of 78. Cancer
had ravaged her body throughout and she made
the decision in November of last year to
discontinue her treatments. It took cancer to move me to
reestablish a relationship with her, to attempt to learn who she wa
and who she had become. I discovered as much
about myself as I did about her. To understand, or perhaps it is better to
say to begin to understand the words that will follow
requires me to cover familiar territory for some of you.
My
childhood was far from normal. My parents had a
difficult relationship that included abuse and neglect
of both his spouse and son. My father was an enigmatic
man of great talents but also great failings. His
was a difficult upbringing that I don’t believe he ever made
peace with, and those unresolved issues bled into every area of his life.
Eventually their marriage fell apart, my mother leaving him in the summer of
1976. Through a series of hard to understand events I found myself with no
family shortly after my 16th birthday. My parents never reconciled,
their marriage finally dissolved by my father’s death in 1983.
There was little to no communication with either
parent and for many years I was unaware of either’s whereabouts. Needless to
say, this created lots and lots of unanswered questions. I had a poor opinion
of both for a number of years, until hearing from an aunt who finally began to
provide me with some of the answers that I had wanted for so long. This
interaction with my aunt reignited in me a desire to answer those questions
that had haunted me for so long, questions about rejection and reasons and
fears of being a man I didn’t want to be.
My mother seldom gave me the answers I sought. She
didn’t want to reopen old wounds. She had remarried and was building a new
life. To be honest, for a long time I held hard feelings towards her over that.
I needed answers about my father and why she permitted the things that
happened. I came to understand that my mother had been a buffer between my
father and I, that she had taken many blows intended for me and had taken the brunt
of many blows intended for me. I came to understand that she left me behind, in
part, so that I could have the stability that a 16 year old needed, that she
trusted my soon to be adopted parents to be able to provide for me what she
could not. I cannot say that it was a noble act, but it was not as calloused as
I had come to believe.
In the 34 years since my father died my mother was
able to piece her life back together. She married again, a man who loved her
and cared for her. They were good for each other. She had found a way to break
free of the chains of her past. She
discovered faith in Christ and turned her life around. She made an impact on
many people. She became someone I did not know. The question was and is....can
I break free of the memory as I have held it all these years?
As Christians we are called to forgive, and I
believe that most of us genuinely try to forgive others. But we all have
trouble forgetting. Genuine forgiveness involves forgetting the offense, to
choose to no longer hold the offense against the person we have forgiven. There
can be no true forgiveness without forgetting. I had to choose to forget the
past, unanswered questions and all, if I was to truly embrace forgiveness for
both my parents. I had allowed my memories to color how I thought about and how
I related with my mother, sometimes unconsciously, sometimes deliberately. My
mother had become a different, a better person, and I was unwilling to let her
be that person. I limited my love and forgiveness for her by the memory I chose
to keep alive, and nobody suffered for it but me.
As I spent a few days last week at my mother’s I
came to realize that my mother had become the person she was always meant to
become. She had been molded by her experiences into someone who made a
difference in the lives of others. She allowed what was to pass and became
someone I had never given her the freedom to become because I would not forget.
Sometimes it’s not so much who we need to forget but
the memory we hold of them.
Rest in Peace, mom. We all will miss you, even me.
Monday, January 2, 2017
Fresh Starts and New Years
Fresh
Starts and New Years
I’ve seen a
few New Years in my lifetime. That doesn’t mean anything other than I’m getting
older, which really only means that I was pretty adept at dodging cars while
playing in the street as a child. I have also made my share of New Year’s
resolutions throughout the years, but I don’t do that much anymore because I
came to the conclusion that anything worth making a resolution about was
probably serious enough to just go ahead and do.
Having said
that, I will take up your time and mine today by sharing some hopes and
resolutions for 2017:
1. I resolve to be a giver of cheer this year.
Those who know me would agree that I am usually a glass half full type of
person. The last two years have made an outlook more and more difficult, but as
a Christian I need to remember that God is still such in control and that the
word “oops” is not in His vocabulary. Everything comes into our lives for a
reason and according to His purposes (even the bad stuff) and it’s high time
that I began reminding myself of that and living in accordance to the confidence
that knowledge gives me. When I remember to have that outlook I will find that
my life will begin to bring joy to the lives of others once again.
2. I resolve to be more thankful this year. It’s too easy to slip into an attitude of
ungratefulness (is that a word?...spell check thinks it is). I/we live in the greatest
country in the world, regardless of who’s President, and we have more to be
thankful for than anyone else in the world. We need to quit thinking of what we
don’t have and comparing our lives to others and considering just how blessed
we truly are. Thankfulness flows out of hearts that are focused properly.
3. I
resolve to sing more this year. There is no better therapy for the blues or
the blahs than lifting up your voice in a song. I’m blessed with the ability to
sing pretty well but I don’t use that talent as often as I should. I have
decided to change that. It doesn’t matter whether you have lots of talent or
not....well, maybe it does (I suggest the car and the shower for those who don’t
have a lick of ability in this regard). You don’t have to only sing church
songs, sing love songs, country songs, silly songs (some of my
favorites)...just sing! I guarantee your heart will feel better because you
did.
4. I
resolve to journal this year. This is the toughest one of all for me.
I have had a truly “on again, off again” relationship with journaling (and blogging;
truth be told). But I have come to realize that one of the reasons that the
tough times have gotten to me is that I have a super-short memory when it comes
to God’s work in my life in the past. The simple act of recording my thoughts
about the day will give me a reference to look back to when the tough times threaten
to overwhelm me and that’s a great thing.
5. I
resolve to pray more this year and talk less. Nobody stays around long when
a person is constantly complaining about their situation or is always being
critical of others. The people in my life who are the toughest for me to be
around are folks just like that. Therefore I have decided that from this day on
I will take my concerns and complaints to God rather than sharing them unnecessarily
with other. Gods a better listener and when I shut up long enough to really
listen to Him I discover that He gives far better advice that any of you...or me.
And lastly:
6. I
resolve to speak more words of appreciation and affection. I desire to
become someone who give others hope and not discouragement, joy and not sorry.
In short, I want to be someone others want to be around because I help them
find joy in their lives.
Is it too forward of me to say that I
hope these would by your resolutions as well?
Happy New Year
Wednesday, December 21, 2016
Comfort and Joy...and other painful things this Christmas
I love Christmas, always have. But I sometimes
wonder how much we love Christmas. I have noticed as I’ve grown older that
Christmas seems to have lost much of its specialness. Could that be a natural
part of growing up? I’m not sure, I mean, I was the guy who wore Santa Hats to
classes while a seminary student (in my late 30’s and early 40’s) and even in
the pulpit a time or two during the last 16 years. My family has always done
its best to celebrate the day and the season with as much happiness and joy
that we could, even when things seemed rather bleak economically, which has
been often. That’s gotten harder to do as the years have gone by, especially
with my health issues (I’m not allowed to climb ladders or get on the roof to
hang lights any longer) and the fact that my kids have gotten to the age where
they are moving away and establishing their lives in other places (what was
once a busy, noisy house of eight is now a much quieter house of four). I will forever miss those crazy, hectic times
but I also cherish the special moments that we have now.
But that’s not what I’m talking about. Our culture
seems to be making a mockery of much of the season, but especially the idea of
the Christ Child as the Prince of Peace and the concepts of comfort and joy. We
seem to have lost sight of the personal aspects of the story of the Christ
Child. Anyone who doesn’t believe me only has to visit any store during this
time of year. A smiling cashier or waitress is a rare person, and one who
probably hasn’t worked too long that day. Survey the lines at any Wal-Mart and
you will notice that they don’t seem to be bursting with Christian cheer or
charity.
But there are glimpses of hope. Very recently my
birth mother called me with what has to be considered discouraging news at the
least. I won’t belabor you with the sordid details but suffice it to say that
she and I have a very troubled past and only in the last two or three years
have been able to begin to piece together some semblance of a relationship.
Regardless, she called to tell me that her cancer is
no longer in check. Her cancer has manifested itself in three different parts
of her body and she has been turned over to hospice for the last stages of her
life. I haven’t seen her since 1990 and we speak only occasionally. To be
honest, I have a difficult time giving her what she needs from me. Her news
couldn’t have come at a worse time for me (as if my time and life were somehow
more important than hers), but she has acknowledged her sickness and is
preparing herself for her last days.
Somewhere in the last twenty-six years my mother
converted to Catholicism and seems to have a strong faith. That faith is what
she clings to know. You see, part of her cancer is in her liver, and liver
cancer is painful and hateful and quick. What was a two year prognosis just a
short time before is now two months; two pain filled hateful months know that
nothing can be done.
As a minister, I am supposed to know exactly what to
do in this kind of situation, both by training and experience. But none of that
prepares you for the gut-punch that happens when it hits so close to home. The
fact that my mother and I were and have been estranged for forty years is not
important. She needs me and I am beginning to understand that I need her too. I
called her this morning (the trip has been impossible before now, but I shall
find a way) with the intention of gathering more information and encouraging
her as best I could. My words were polished and empathic...my understanding of
her condition was deep and my experience gave me the proper sense of timing, of
what and when to say just the right things.
But my words rang hollow in my heart and my ears, as
I’m sure they did in hers. We talked quietly, but there was a strength and
confidence in her words that was absent in mine. You see, my mother knew just
where she was and what was happening and she was at peace with it all. Her
peace, according to her, came from Jesus...the knowledge that she had given her
life to Him and that He had forgiven and received her into His family.
Friends, my mother knows real comfort and joy. I have often told my congregations/youth
groups through the years that joy is living in the confidence that God is in
control and that He keeps His word. But somewhere in the last two years I had
begun to lose sight of those words and the God who is the source of all true
hope.
And it took a woman with only two months to live to
wake me up from my spiritual slumber.
Maybe it’s time to put away the rush, the pressure,
the foo-foo of Christmas and take a long look at a dirty cattle stall, a tired
young family and the shepherds, filthy from their flocks, who came at angelic
invitation.
Where has the Christmas spirit gone? Where is our
comfort and joy? I want to tell you that we’ve lost it in all our cute Facebook
posts and Jesus- light. The truth is that the manger is powerless without the
cross and the empty tomb. Our comfort and our joy are to be found in the
perfect life of God’s perfect Son who died for us and rose again so that we
might one day be with Him.
Like I believe my mother will be soon.
Merry Christmas
Monday, December 14, 2015
While Shepherds....
There are three messages that my parents gave to me during the sixteen years that I lived with them:
1. I was ugly.
2. I was unloved.
3. I was unwanted.
My parents managed to communicate those messages to me in every area of my life. They had, and still have, a profound impact on me. Unfortunately those messages have a way of forcing themselves back into my consciousness from time to time and can still wreak havoc with my heart and mind.
I would be lying if I said that I haven't been struggling with them lately.
Some of you will remember that this year has been a very difficult one for my family and I. Family struggles, job stress, and unemployment have taken a heavy toll on us. Each passing day without a paycheck or even interest from prospective employers creates more and more stress and makes the messages from the past even harder to wrestle with and to subdue.
To be brief, I am lonely, hurting, and struggling to hold on to the belief that God loves me.
Some of you are shocked that a minister would make such an admission. Others are uncomfortable with it. But the truth is that I have spoken the truth, no matter how uncomfortable it may be. The people of God can and do struggle with despair and depression, and the sooner we can learn to talk about it honestly with each other the better.
But that's not what I want to talk about.
The gospel of Luke tells us that there were shepherds in the fields on the night of Jesus' birth. Scholars and theologians (of which I am neither) tell us that those shepherds were not at the top of anyone's social ladder. Shepherds were ceremonially unclean, unable to enter the Temple because of their association with unclean things. Shepherds were considered untrustworthy; their testimony not admitted in courts. No one wanted there daughters to marry shepherds because they were considered dishonest and immoral.
Not exactly the picture we are familiar with in our church Christmas pageants.
But the shepherds are precisely where I find my source of hope during this very difficult Christmas season. If God would dare to present the good news to a group of unworthy, unlovely, unwanted shepherds then he must believe that even someone as unworthy, unlovely and unwanted as me is worthy of the good news as well.
I am sitting in the lobby of a McDonald's as I write this and I am surrounded by many types of people, people of whom I am sure there are some who are hurting as I am and others who would consider themselves unworthy of the love of God.
The church has sanitized the story of the Nativity. So very few of the mangers on display show the mud and straw, the dirt of a stable. I have never seen shepherds dressed in dirty robes, covered in the dirt of the Judean hillsides and the fatigue written on their faces. Mary and Joseph are always calm and peaceful...never showing the signs of stress and exhaustion that are the natural byproducts of the birth of a child.
When did the birth of Christ become a Sunday School lesson and not the reality of Emmanuel, God with us?
The truth is that the birth of Jesus was witnessed by shepherds who were considered to be second-class citizens. Those second-class citizens were the first bearers of that good news. Yet today it seems that the second class among us are the very ones who are passed over in the telling of the good news.
I want those of you who might read this, those who are struggling with a hard life filled with poor choices and disadvantages that the good news is for you too. You see, it was only after I discovered the good news; that Jesus Christ loved me and died for me that I was able to find the ability to overcome those messages that were planted so deeply in my psyche.
I want you to know that you're not ugly.....God sees you as His beautiful child.
You are not unloved...God loves you enough that He sent His Son to restore you.
You are not unwanted....God has prepared a place for all His children.
If God could love me....then I know He loves you.
Christmas is the ultimate expression of that love. I hope that someone will share that love with you this season.
Merry Christmas
1. I was ugly.
2. I was unloved.
3. I was unwanted.
My parents managed to communicate those messages to me in every area of my life. They had, and still have, a profound impact on me. Unfortunately those messages have a way of forcing themselves back into my consciousness from time to time and can still wreak havoc with my heart and mind.
I would be lying if I said that I haven't been struggling with them lately.
Some of you will remember that this year has been a very difficult one for my family and I. Family struggles, job stress, and unemployment have taken a heavy toll on us. Each passing day without a paycheck or even interest from prospective employers creates more and more stress and makes the messages from the past even harder to wrestle with and to subdue.
To be brief, I am lonely, hurting, and struggling to hold on to the belief that God loves me.
Some of you are shocked that a minister would make such an admission. Others are uncomfortable with it. But the truth is that I have spoken the truth, no matter how uncomfortable it may be. The people of God can and do struggle with despair and depression, and the sooner we can learn to talk about it honestly with each other the better.
But that's not what I want to talk about.
The gospel of Luke tells us that there were shepherds in the fields on the night of Jesus' birth. Scholars and theologians (of which I am neither) tell us that those shepherds were not at the top of anyone's social ladder. Shepherds were ceremonially unclean, unable to enter the Temple because of their association with unclean things. Shepherds were considered untrustworthy; their testimony not admitted in courts. No one wanted there daughters to marry shepherds because they were considered dishonest and immoral.
Not exactly the picture we are familiar with in our church Christmas pageants.
But the shepherds are precisely where I find my source of hope during this very difficult Christmas season. If God would dare to present the good news to a group of unworthy, unlovely, unwanted shepherds then he must believe that even someone as unworthy, unlovely and unwanted as me is worthy of the good news as well.
I am sitting in the lobby of a McDonald's as I write this and I am surrounded by many types of people, people of whom I am sure there are some who are hurting as I am and others who would consider themselves unworthy of the love of God.
The church has sanitized the story of the Nativity. So very few of the mangers on display show the mud and straw, the dirt of a stable. I have never seen shepherds dressed in dirty robes, covered in the dirt of the Judean hillsides and the fatigue written on their faces. Mary and Joseph are always calm and peaceful...never showing the signs of stress and exhaustion that are the natural byproducts of the birth of a child.
When did the birth of Christ become a Sunday School lesson and not the reality of Emmanuel, God with us?
The truth is that the birth of Jesus was witnessed by shepherds who were considered to be second-class citizens. Those second-class citizens were the first bearers of that good news. Yet today it seems that the second class among us are the very ones who are passed over in the telling of the good news.
I want those of you who might read this, those who are struggling with a hard life filled with poor choices and disadvantages that the good news is for you too. You see, it was only after I discovered the good news; that Jesus Christ loved me and died for me that I was able to find the ability to overcome those messages that were planted so deeply in my psyche.
I want you to know that you're not ugly.....God sees you as His beautiful child.
You are not unloved...God loves you enough that He sent His Son to restore you.
You are not unwanted....God has prepared a place for all His children.
If God could love me....then I know He loves you.
Christmas is the ultimate expression of that love. I hope that someone will share that love with you this season.
Merry Christmas
Wednesday, August 12, 2015
Life and Death in August of 1987
August 12, 1987 - Wadley Hospital, Texarkana.
Sometime during the day....
The nurse threw a set of scrubs at me and told me to put them on "quickly" and pointed me to a restroom just to my right. I remember juggling the scrubs as I moved into the room as quickly as I could. A weird mixture of fright, excitement, uncertainty and wonder filled my soul as I changed my clothes. The shoe covers were the last things that I put on and they kept catching on the bottom of my shoes. I hopped on one leg into the delivery room while struggling to put on the last cover.
An overwhelming silence stopped me in my tracks.
I had helped to deliver a baby in a bathroom of a McDonald's as a senior in college and remember that scene as loud and chaotic, complete with someone calling for "hot water" and "towels, we need towels!"
The scene before me was nothing like that. The room was bright and cold. Why is it that hospitals are always cold? The mood was somber and heavy, as if a gigantic weight was pressing down on all of us. In the space of a heartbeat, or maybe less, my eyes fell upon the reason for the mood.
Laying on a delivery bed was my wife. My wife has always been stronger than she realizes, but at that moment she looked broken and empty and deeply wounded.
Just across the room from her, on a warming table, layour baby. Johnathan Michael was born at 23 weeks....too soon for a realistic chance at life 27 years ago. Even then, if we had been a hospital better equipped for such a premature infant...but there was no time. There was no time.
I remember my wife reaching out to me, calling me. My eyes and my heart were fixed on the tiny little form on that warming table. As I watched I saw his little body spasm and then become still. The nurses would later tell me that what I saw was just a natural part of the death process. I am convinced that I saw my son die.
Later that day a very wise, compassionate nurse brought Johnathan to us. She had cleaned him and wrapped him in a little blue blanket and put a little blue cap on his head. She brought us an unofficial certificate of birth, the kind you keep in a scrapbook and a camera. She urged us to spend time with him and take pictures of him.
Those few minutes are some of the most precious moments in my life. We counted fingers and toes, caressed his hair and wept and prayed. The nurses made sure that no one disturbed us in that quiet time. Like the rest of the event of that day, time stood still.
Johnathan would be 28 years old today. God has blessed us with other children and 19 month later Johnathan was gifted with a brother in heaven who we named Timothy. I can only imagine what our homecoming in heaven will be like one day. But for now I have 6 other children to love and cherish and guide/shepherd through life.
I have not watched the Planned Parenthood videos. I don't need to watch them to know that abortion is a sickening act that has no redeeming value. I know and have known many women who have had abortions, some of them more than one, and none of them see it now as a good thing. Compounding the issue is the profit motive. It is not enough that America has the blood of over 50 million innocent lives to account for....we now have compounded the issue with blood money. We have taken the lives of the innocent to improve our bottom line.
Don't give me any of the standard "it helps medical research" reasoning. The truth is that fetal experimentation had never given us any real advances that could not be achieved in other, less barbaric ways. I have a bad heart and diabetes, I know that my own health can be directly affected by medical research, but the buying and selling of fetal body parts is far beyond the line I would draw and far below the worth and value of all human life.
It is only a short step from disposing of inconvenient children to the disposing of the inconvenient elderly and those who bring no "contribution" to society because of mental or physical incapacity. Our collective memory has forgotten the atrocities of the Nazis against the Jews and the experimentation of the Japanese on prisoners of war.
In our selfish quest for a "better" life and for "profit" we have become as barbaric as any great villain or fictional monster from the past. God forgive us.
God save us.
God save the children.
Sometime during the day....
The nurse threw a set of scrubs at me and told me to put them on "quickly" and pointed me to a restroom just to my right. I remember juggling the scrubs as I moved into the room as quickly as I could. A weird mixture of fright, excitement, uncertainty and wonder filled my soul as I changed my clothes. The shoe covers were the last things that I put on and they kept catching on the bottom of my shoes. I hopped on one leg into the delivery room while struggling to put on the last cover.
An overwhelming silence stopped me in my tracks.
I had helped to deliver a baby in a bathroom of a McDonald's as a senior in college and remember that scene as loud and chaotic, complete with someone calling for "hot water" and "towels, we need towels!"
The scene before me was nothing like that. The room was bright and cold. Why is it that hospitals are always cold? The mood was somber and heavy, as if a gigantic weight was pressing down on all of us. In the space of a heartbeat, or maybe less, my eyes fell upon the reason for the mood.
Laying on a delivery bed was my wife. My wife has always been stronger than she realizes, but at that moment she looked broken and empty and deeply wounded.
Just across the room from her, on a warming table, layour baby. Johnathan Michael was born at 23 weeks....too soon for a realistic chance at life 27 years ago. Even then, if we had been a hospital better equipped for such a premature infant...but there was no time. There was no time.
I remember my wife reaching out to me, calling me. My eyes and my heart were fixed on the tiny little form on that warming table. As I watched I saw his little body spasm and then become still. The nurses would later tell me that what I saw was just a natural part of the death process. I am convinced that I saw my son die.
Later that day a very wise, compassionate nurse brought Johnathan to us. She had cleaned him and wrapped him in a little blue blanket and put a little blue cap on his head. She brought us an unofficial certificate of birth, the kind you keep in a scrapbook and a camera. She urged us to spend time with him and take pictures of him.
Those few minutes are some of the most precious moments in my life. We counted fingers and toes, caressed his hair and wept and prayed. The nurses made sure that no one disturbed us in that quiet time. Like the rest of the event of that day, time stood still.
Johnathan would be 28 years old today. God has blessed us with other children and 19 month later Johnathan was gifted with a brother in heaven who we named Timothy. I can only imagine what our homecoming in heaven will be like one day. But for now I have 6 other children to love and cherish and guide/shepherd through life.
I have not watched the Planned Parenthood videos. I don't need to watch them to know that abortion is a sickening act that has no redeeming value. I know and have known many women who have had abortions, some of them more than one, and none of them see it now as a good thing. Compounding the issue is the profit motive. It is not enough that America has the blood of over 50 million innocent lives to account for....we now have compounded the issue with blood money. We have taken the lives of the innocent to improve our bottom line.
Don't give me any of the standard "it helps medical research" reasoning. The truth is that fetal experimentation had never given us any real advances that could not be achieved in other, less barbaric ways. I have a bad heart and diabetes, I know that my own health can be directly affected by medical research, but the buying and selling of fetal body parts is far beyond the line I would draw and far below the worth and value of all human life.
It is only a short step from disposing of inconvenient children to the disposing of the inconvenient elderly and those who bring no "contribution" to society because of mental or physical incapacity. Our collective memory has forgotten the atrocities of the Nazis against the Jews and the experimentation of the Japanese on prisoners of war.
In our selfish quest for a "better" life and for "profit" we have become as barbaric as any great villain or fictional monster from the past. God forgive us.
God save us.
God save the children.
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